Do you feel lonely?
If I had to rank the top 3 fears today, this would be the first: fear of loneliness
It is the most common and common one today. Even I had it at a fairly high intensity, but by working with it and doing certain exercises, I solved it and now it is in smaller amounts.
What is the fear of loneliness?
I'll give you a perspective from my point of view. The fear of loneliness manifests itself by seeking validation, approval, and the presence of people in your life. For me, it manifested itself by not being with myself at all, not respecting myself, not loving myself at all, and I was always trying to go out with lots of women or friends, just so I wouldn't be alone in the house.
The fear of loneliness was my biggest emotional wound. Because my mother was not present in my life as a child, she was always at work, I always felt alone, abandoned.
Which led to the search for validation from women. Don't leave me, don't reject me, don't leave me alone.
Whenever I was left alone in the house or didn't receive any messages on my phone, my fear of loneliness would be activated and I would always look for external things to make me stop feeling it.
How does the fear of loneliness manifest itself?
It manifests through panic attacks, heartache, depression or even come to your senses suicideAt least that's how this fear of loneliness manifested itself in me, but in other people it may manifest differently.
Because my mother was not present in my life emotionally, but also physically, I was always looking for her love in other women.
I was always trying to make them love me, to force them to stay by my side.
How does it manifest itself in relationships? How does it manifest itself in love?
I was always buying gifts, I was very romantic, just to get their attention or their validation. In my mind there was this thing: "If she is happy, then I am too."
When he ended up breaking up with me, something normal, because I wasn't masculine, I wasn't a man, I would go and pray on my knees that he wouldn't leave me. I would throw away all my dignity just so I wouldn't end up feeling that fear of loneliness.
And this happened for 6 years, over and over and over again, until I realized... resolving emotional wounds.
Up until that point, I was always looking for women on social media. I would send mass messages, just to get their attention or to go on a date with them.
What happens after you solve the fear of loneliness?
The moment I resolved this fear of loneliness, I felt super at peace with myself first and foremost.
Secondly, I no longer seek validation from women or other people around me. I no longer lose my dignity in front of women or try to impress them.
Once you resolve this fear of loneliness, you will see that you will be very at peace with being alone or not feel super torn to pieces when your loved one leaves you or cheats on you. Of course you will still feel a little intensity of emotions, but not in the way that you end up suffering and falling into depression. In the way you accept this and are at peace with yourself.
Now I feel super grateful to have shared a piece of my past with you and to teach you certain things. If you want to stop feeling like this, whether you are a woman or a man, I invite you to sign up for the course for healing inner fears.
As first steps towards solving...
- Start working at self-confidence and self-esteem
- Start giving yourself the necessary love and respect
- Start taking care of yourself. your emotional wounds
- Start taking care of your body (food, exercise)
- Start doing things that you are passionate about and make you happy
- Start reading, getting informed and investing in yourself
See you next time! Smile, it's free!
