A woman's thoughts
Woman, how many times have you cried for nights in a row? How many tears have you carried on your cheek? How many sleepless nights and worries about the one next to you? How many worries because you have too many or too few kilos. That you don't look good enough for the one next to you.
That those around you don't like you because you're not as plastic as some. How many times have you told yourself that you're not the wife/girlfriend/woman they want? perfect?! But does this perfection that we all seek really exist? Are there people without flaws? Excuse me for daring to tell you that there is no such thing. There are no people who do not make mistakes. Some more, some less. Some in one direction, some in another. But we all make mistakes.
Stop judging you
We all have flaws, big or small. We've all made choices we regretted at some point. Do you think your tears are worth wasting on the opinions of others? Because you underestimated yourself and don't have enough trust in yourself? You put others on a pedestal and let yourself be carried away. You gave up your needs and desires to fulfill others. You put your partner next to you on the stage of life.
He's the director, you're the lead actor. And he's still unhappy. Yes. Why? Because respect for you does not exist… You tend to believe that you are not good enough and you do not have the necessary confidence in what you can do, in the fact that you deserve to be loved, respected, accepted. To pamper yourself and do what you love. To have some time just for yourself doing things for yourself. It is not selfishness, it is a healthy way of living in harmony with yourself. It is not only others that matter.
Accept yourself as you are.
If you are not at peace with yourself, you will not be at peace with others. No matter how many sacrifices you make. Your person must come first. Others are secondary. When you learn how to truly love yourself, you will be able to offer love and help to others. Until then, you will be like a feather – frail, which will waver at every breeze.
Start your change
Have the courage to say yes to your happiness. To let your feelings carry you in the direction they want. To do what you like, even if it means giving up helping others so much. Don't get me wrong. Offer help to others, but after you offer it to yourself so as not to create frustrations in time. Offer love, but after you offer it to yourself, because love offered without loving yourself is not love. It's just a lie that will turn into hatred and reproaches like "nobody loves me too".
Don't be your own enemy, self-sabotaging yourself by anchoring yourself in statements like: "I like to make others happy", "their happiness matters more than mine", "if they are happy, I am too". It's not real. You can't be truly fulfilled when you hate yourself, when you are not happy with yourself in your body. You will be happy when you give yourself the courage to be free, to accept yourself and to love yourself as you are. When you understand that even those small flaws are part of your body and give you uniqueness and a special beauty, then you will be able to truly offer others joy and love. Don't forget to smile and thank yourself daily for the woman you are.
Respectfully, Petrus.
(A woman's thoughts)
