What does vulnerability mean? What is vulnerability?
I've always noticed, in both cases, in women and men, the way they always try to show that they're strong, that they have no weaknesses, that they have no flaws. Always trying to make it seem like they don't have emotions. Trying to hide their emotions. Trying to be perfect!
The vulnerable man: what he represents and what to do
The vast majority of men have this mask of rigidity. To always be impenetrable, to always be indestructible. They have this fear of showing that there are times when you really feel weak and you want to externalize this, you want to expose it with your loved one.
I've been in this situation too, of being rigid and not opening up to the important people in my life. The people I want to connect with, the people I want to share my feelings with.
I was the kind of man who was always serious, always rigid, not dynamic, not emotional at all.
The emotional wound of being seen as weak
Why do we do this? For fear of being rejected, for fear that that person, seeing our weaknesses and insecurities, might run away from us.
For fear of being abandoned and left with their eyes in the sun.
That's why we do this. But this is you. This represents you. Why don't you start accepting the things you can't change?, and the ones you can change, work on them. Why not say you are proud and confident that you have them? Why not say you accept them, instead of running away from them and hiding them?
By not doing anything with your weaknesses and always showing that strong and indestructible stature, you should know that the connection will not come that way either, you will not enjoy the feelings with the person you are trying to get to know at all, you will not enjoy those beautiful moments full of emotions and feelings. You will not be able to do this and you will automatically reject that person, giving the impression that you are cold.
I want to mention here that this thing of being vulnerable, you only do it with people you feel are worth it, with whom you connect and are on the same wavelength. With those people you have something to discuss, communicate.
I'm not going to tell you when you feel this, you'll tell yourself. The voice of your intuition will do it. Just listen to it.
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Vulnerability vs Fragility
And I want to mention one more thing, vulnerability and fragility are completely opposite. It's one thing to be vulnerable, to accept your weaknesses, to open up to that person and look for solutions, and it's another to be fragile, to victimize yourself and complain like a child.
It's a very fine line between the two, but I'll give you two sentences to help you understand this:
"Look, I cut my hand, it's bleeding and I feel a little bad, but it's okay, I'm going to go to the doctor and get this fixed."
"Oops, I cut my hand, what am I going to do? I'm going to soooooooooooooooooooo…."
Okay, I exaggerated in the second sentence, but you get the idea. It's one thing to be a confident, assertive man, it's another to be a whiny little boy who didn't get his lollipop.
Start being vulnerable, start feeling how you connect with that person, start being open and your behavior will completely change, as will the behavior of the person in front of you. You will see how those beautiful and magnificent emotions will penetrate.
The power of being vulnerable
Being vulnerable means courage, not weakness!
Being vulnerable means being you, it makes you different!
Start being the player, not the spectator!
Vulnerability means connecting with that person, letting them into your emotions, receiving their love and giving them love. Vulnerability means creating a very beautiful relationship with that person, trusting each other and making it a connection just from the looks.
Conclusion
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