Is it starting to disappoint you?
In the first part "Why is it getting cold with you?" We discussed a possible change in her from that loving, affectionate woman to the person who is cold as ice.
We discussed that mask that most men put on to show an illusory self-confidence and self-esteem. Like a block that is well-shaped on the outside, but inside there is a lot of "garbage".
In part 2 of "Why is it getting cold with you?" I will talk about another challenge that most men are not aware of, namely: THE ROLE OF MAN AND WOMAN.
How is it interpreted?
What do you think of when you hear about the male-female role? You probably think of the woman washing, ironing, cooking, cleaning, and the man sitting? You probably think of the man having the right to beat his woman and curse at her? Probably, probably, etc.
No, I mean that in a relationship you have to know how to be a man in the true sense of the word. Not just being a man at the beginning of your interaction with her, and then changing. No. You are a man and you have to be a man every moment you breathe. What does that mean?
Know how to lead a woman, know how to give her security, trust, freedom. Know when to empathize with her and when she crosses the limits. Know when to be assertive and responsible.
What is it exactly?
The role of man-woman refers to knowing how to lead a woman, knowing how to maintain your position in a relationship as a MAN. Many people pretend to be men only at the beginning of their interaction with her, but the moment they enter into a relationship with that woman, they sit on the couch with the remote control in their hand and the thought: "Okay, I have it, what's the point of developing myself, of being a man? And that's how mine is.".
It doesn't work that way.
I went through this experience too. Up until then, I was developing as a man, working on my mission, and had big goals, but the moment I got into a relationship with her and moved in with her, I gave up everything and was lazy because I had that one thing on my mind.
The moment you do this, is the moment when you lose your status as a man in that relationship. It is the moment when she sees that you are not doing anything, you are not stressing, you are not leading her, you are not giving her security and trust. At that moment that woman decides to take on the role of a man and starts working, doing all the chores inside and outside the house. Guess who gets the role of a woman? YOU! After that you will be disappointed!
Because getting out of your comfort zone...
Exposing yourself to stress, going into the unknown, experimenting, taking risks, failing, losing is a masculine energy and creates a masculine energy. And when a woman sees that you've fallen on your ass, she starts taking over those goals and you'll still stay on the couch.
He will start testing you, giving you orders.: “Go and do that.” / “Bring me some chocolate too” / “Go to the store and buy me X.” She will start leading you to say: “Let’s do X thing.” / “Let’s go to Y place.”
She'll just start taking on the male-female role, but you won't even realize it. You'll become sensitive, you'll stand there like a puppy in the rain and you won't even see this change. This 180-degree turn.
Think about what relationship this happened in? Think about when you gave up all your goals, all those outings with friends, your passions, and decided to give her 100% of your attention. Were you sitting on the couch nonstop?
Just sit and think about when this role of man-woman changed. And the moment when this role changed and you became the woman in that relationship, is the moment when she becomes cold towards you and no longer sees you as a MAN. That's the moment when the relationship starts to decline.
What should you change so you don't get disappointed?
The man is made to step out of his comfort zone, to face external dangers.
The woman is made to offer love, affection, care to the man after he has fought that strong battle,
To give you an analogy, so you can understand it much better. Imagine that you are with a machine gun in your hand and shooting at external dangers, and the woman is behind you supporting you and giving you ammunition to deal with it.
You are not meant to stay in your comfort zone and become the woman in that relationship! You are meant to be a MAN and go where you want, to get what you want!
I talk about these aspects in the book HOW TO MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP? It will radically change you, quickly understanding how a relationship works and not ending up in disappointment!
They tell you everything you need to know about maintaining attraction.
