I've encountered this challenge many times, not to mention the problem sounds too big. Honestly, I've had it in the past too, but in the end I solved it, I realized it – "What should I do if he left me?"
How? I simply don't stand in the way of that person's decision. Is that what they want? Is that what they choose? Okay, let him do that. I'll give him free rein to make this decision. You wouldn't think of me."What should I do if he left me?"
I know, I know, you're going to say, well, if you do that, it means you don't care. Yeah? I don't think so. I think that maturity is when even though you love that person you let them go if that's what they choose and that's what they want. You don't try to change their decision. You don't try to influence or manipulate them. You show them that you're mature enough to be okay with this thought.
Yes, it's painful, it's hard, you feel your soul, your heart ache. It brings you to your knees. I understand. But why would you stay with a person who no longer feels attracted to you? Once they think about doing this, it means that for this person you no longer represent such a huge attraction, and the connection is gone. It's a time saver and you won't stay in a relationship where you don't feel loved.
I mean, you're aware that if you try to stop her and she stays, she'll do it out of pity, not because she's super attracted to you. And love by force doesn't work. She'll feel cold and distant, and you'll hurt yourself a lot more. You'll ask yourself: "Why is he doing this??”, “Why is he behaving like this??”, “What can I do??” and the avalanche of thoughts comes that will overwhelm and destroy you. You will put pressure on yourself and try to be what you are not.
Be aware of what you represent, what you are, what qualities and flaws you have, and things will be much simpler. Ask yourself if it's worth destroying yourself to keep someone who won't give you love.
