During the time I've had the BarbatulSuperior page, I've been approached many times by men who said: He left me. What should I do?
Saying to give them advice, how to get it back or what to do.
Okay, here's more than just giving advice. I have nothing to do, the rest is up to them. You see, when a woman leaves you and gives you a reason like "I need a break", "We were arguing too much", etc., she actually wants to convey behind these words that she is no longer attracted to you. Her attraction to you is dead. Why?
Somewhere along the relationship, she realized that you are no longer a man, that you have become a little boy. There can be many causes, but to understand better, Let me tell you an experience. of mine that opened my eyes much more.
Before you read below, I recommend you go here too:
What should I do if he left me?
A year and a half ago, I had entered into a relationship with a girl, everything was fine and dandy. Until then, I was constantly evolving and working on myself. The moment I entered into that relationship, I said to myself, "Why should I continue to evolve?" "Why should I keep working on myself when I'm already in a relationship?" and thoughts like that. I had already made the first mistake, I stopped my evolution and achieving my goals for her.
She didn't realize it at the time, but once a man sits on the couch all day and watches TV and does nothing, What impression does it give you??
I had gained weight., I stopped going to the gym, I didn't take care of myself at all. 2nd mistake.
I became suffocating, I was constantly with her, I stopped going out with friends, I had no purpose in life. The 3rd mistake, I had put her first and the center of my attention.
When we argued, I wasn't centered on myself, emotionally balanced, I was making drama like a woman. I mean, we were 2 women in the same house. The 3rd mistake was I didn't have enough emotional intelligence to be her pillar in life and calm her down.
I don't need to say that the roles had changed, she had become the man and I the woman, energetically. She was the stable and direct one, I was the weaker and more evasive one.
You have to be a man in a relationship, know how to lead a woman, and provide her with security and trust.
Yes, I've analyzed situations like this a lot in the past. I've accepted that it happened that way, because each experience opened my eyes and made me who I am today. I'm not perfect, I work on myself every day, because I still have a lot to adjust, but I've always taken my lessons and learned from them.
And I'm happy and grateful to every person who came into my life and helped me realize these things.
I hope you do the same. Don't stop evolving and don't judge anyone.
