Since I opened this page, I've probably mentioned a few times what to do when you catch her cheating on you, or maybe you caught her right then and there.
This possibility exists in almost anyone, but most of all in men who do nothing with their lives and just complain, victimizing how cruel life is to them.
On the other hand, for a man who works hard both physically, mentally, and financially, these chances are quite small to almost nonexistent.
We talked about WHY DID HE CHEAT ON YOU? in a past article, but...
Now I want to better highlight this topic.
You think you have a happy relationship.
Let's say you've just gotten into a relationship and you've fallen head over heels in love with this woman. You think she's that "special" woman you shouldn't put her through the tests for.
The relationship is going great, everything is going smoothly, popcorn, rainbow, haha hihi.
But, you don't take one thing into account, you start to sleep on one ear.
What do you mean?
You start to lose sight of the fact that you've given up taking care of yourself, you've given up on your mission, you've given up on going out with your friends, you've given up on your passions...
Now all that comes first is... Her and only her.
Mistake number #1 in dating or relationships
Many men don't realize this mistake until they've made it many times, and the relationship ends up cheating every time, almost every time.
What happened to me too...
Every time I made this mistake 5 years ago, every time I ended up being left for someone else or being cheated on.
I remember
I remember that before I was cheated on, an experience from a relationship where I spent all my time with her. I didn't take care of myself, I didn't have my hobbies, my passions, I had given up going out with friends...
If she gave me a message, I was already "talking to her".
If she told me "let's see each other, I miss you", I would drop all my chores, my plans and get dressed to go see her.
Not to mention gifts. I wouldn't buy anything for myself, just to see her happy.
I was going with the perspective that if my girlfriend is happy, then I am too.
Basically, at the center of my universe was her and only her.
Until...
Until he told me: "I don't feel like going out today, I'm staying home."
And I believed it, I said it was normal, everything was rainbows and spring scent for me.
Until I received an anonymous picture in "Message Requests" that read: "Look what your girlfriend is doing.."
And boom, the picture of her and a boy kissing.
What did I do then?
At that moment you realize that you feel the ground cracking under your feet, it's normal. When you love and get attached, you also take the risk of getting hurt.
At that time, I didn't take on anything.
I got angry for a moment, I was furious, I wanted to curse and do it in every way...
But I preferred to do something else.
If he ends up cheating on you, it means...
I preferred to do some research and start to see where I went wrong and how it got to this point. What did I do wrong as a man, I pray, as a boy… why did she get to this point.
While researching, I found out that women end up doing this when the male-female roles change.
What am I referring to?
Pe parcursul relației ție ți-au ieșit la iveală comportamentele de nice guy sau good boy și you were not educated to be a man.
They also came out for you. fears, anxieties, traumas on the surface what made you weaker, softer.
He tested you., and you failed every time.
You don't have the necessary information to understand the woman.
As a result of these aspects, you have lost the role of a man and become a woman.
Another point that influences this
Another aspect I want to mention when it comes to being cheated on, besides the fact that you lost your role as a man in the relationship, is: A man of value no longer sees you.
Because you're not doing anything with your life, not working on yourself, not evolving, she's come to no longer see you as bringing value to the relationship.
For her, that relationship is no longer a benefit and has become a disadvantage.
A woman will always look for a man of great quality, strong and attractive, who brings value to the fact that she entered into a relationship with him.
The moment you stop doing this, the first man who comes into her life with a much higher grade than you will instantly leave you for him.
This is the truth. The harsh truth.
What do you do when you catch her cheating on you or is cheating on you?
Let's say you caught her and you got to the point of being cheated on. She wasn't expecting it, and you showed up out of the blue.
What do you do in this situation?
Maybe other influencers would tell you to beat her or beat him, but I'll tell you something else.
DON'T DO THIS!
I haven't done it and I never will if it happens to me again.
Don't ask "Why? What was on your mind?", you don't ask for explanations, you just do this:
You smile, turn around and leave.
Asking for explanations doesn't help you at all.
By asking for explanations, you're only hurting yourself by stabbing yourself in the heart. Deeper than it was.
You don't need to find out or confirm why she did this.
I told you above what some mistakes you can make, and the biggest explanation is:
SHE'S NO LONGER ATTRACTED TO YOU
You killed the attraction with your unmasculinity that you exuded while you were with her. So, don't ask for explanations, don't ask her why, how, or other things like that.
If you want, you can thank him for doing this. Added to the smile, turned and left.
Why? Let's talk below.
I know it hurts you.
I understand and I know it hurts if you've been through this now or maybe recently. I've been through this too and I know how you feel.
It's so damn painful, you feel like your heart is broken into a thousand pieces and you don't see any hope left.
But.. let's not dramatize any more and let me give you my perspective on this issue.
The moment these things happened to me, over time I realized that it was actually a lesson for me.
For any man who ends up being cheated on or abandoned, and this hurts him very much...
Life wants to teach you a lesson.
Usually, in this situation the lesson is: Get up, do something with your life, work on yourself, evolve!
For me and other people I met, this was the lesson.
Start evolving!
That woman did this, it was a lesson for you to stand up, stop rubbing it in cold water, and start working on your masculinity.
That's why I thanked the women in my past for teaching me this aspect.
That's why I wished them all the best in the world, because if they hadn't done that, I probably wouldn't be here in front of you writing this article.
And if she didn't do this, you wouldn't get to meet me.
See? Always half full.
Conclusion
So, if you are in so much pain that you no longer see any hope in this life, I invite you to work with this pain. In case you didn't know, this pain also comes from emotional traumas from childhood, and once this is reduced, the pain will be insignificant.
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