I'm sure you've often fallen prey to the "I don't feel like it" or "eh, I'll do it tomorrow" trap.
We often put off certain things and get frustrated by the fact that "someone else can and I can't."
We end up putting off so many things that, at some point, the glass gets full and we give up. You constantly complain about everything, you victimize yourself, as if nothing makes sense to you anymore!
You sink more and more into laziness and have a hard time getting anything done.
Before continuing, when you find yourself in the situation above, ask yourself the following questions.
Will doing X thing bring me closer to my goal?
What can I gain if I do X thing?
What happens if I don't do X thing?
The list of questions could go on. Start with these three and I'm sure that once you ask them, you'll feel your motivation grow.
Next, let's talk about how you get to that "bottom of the barrel" point to know how to avoid it, it seems logical, right?
How do you get to the bottom of the barrel?
Well, the road to get there is not long at all and only requires one statement: "I don't feel like it/I'm lazy/I'll do it later"
From personal experience I can say that this is what happened in my case. After a constant period of working with myself, a period in which I was full of energy and had a great vibe, I decided that enough was enough for now and said
"Today I don't have I feel like doing xyz things, today is just for me and that's it!"
Of course I achieved my goal of doing nothing and fell into my comfort zone. The next day when I resumed my activity, the things I used to do every day seemed to be getting harder and harder to accomplish and I slowly felt my dopamine and motivation decrease. I had already gotten used to my comfort zone
Every time a social opportunity or an opportunity to step out of my comfort zone came up, a voice would come into my head saying I HAVE NO BOSS and my whole mood would go down, I would feel tired even though I hadn't made any effort.
I had days when I was productive and achieved all my goals and days when I could barely check off two and felt much more tired.
As soon as I noticed this I started to wonder how I got into this situation. I got into my own head and all my energy was going into useless and irrelevant thoughts for my problem. The frustrations kept piling up and I just sat there doing nothing about it, just complaining continuously.
Logically, the glass got full at some point and it just passed. After that happened, I had clearer thinking and I found the mechanism that brought me to that situation.
What is the mechanism?
Our reptilian brain is genetically programmed to provide for its physiological needs, namely:
- a place to sleep, to take shelter (house)
- food and water
- a place to relieve oneself (bathroom)
- the need for reproduction, sex
Every time we want to have more than our basic needs, that is, to step out of our comfort zone, the brain's self-defense mechanism kicks in. That mechanism is represented by that voice that tells us I DON'T HAVE A BOSS.
The brain does this because it believes that once we leave our comfort zone, the body is exposed to danger and will die.
What to do?
Once you've reached this point, congratulations, you already have your first victory. The fact that you've become aware of what's happening to you is nothing short of a victory. Now all you have to do is make a battle plan and follow it. Let's do it together (in my case it worked)
1. The first step I recommend is to let out all the frustrations that have accumulated.
How do you do this?... You do this by:
-meditation
-you go to a person you resonate with and tell them all your frustrations. You don't need an answer from them, just to listen to you (you can tell them that)
-write all your frustrations on a piece of paper and then burn it
2. Try a new routine. Replace unproductive habits with productive ones.
3. Write down your tasks for the next day at least the night before, be organized!
4. Don't give up and whenever that voice appears in your head, take a 2-minute break from what you're doing, think about the positive things about yourself, how you got to where you are, say thank you, smile (it's a joke 🙂), take a deep breath and continue your work.
5. Enjoy your new routine and update it weekly, set important goals to achieve.
This was today's article! Good luck on your journey and get rid of I HAVE NO BOSS
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