Hello men!
We can say that education has the greatest influence on behavior, especially in society.
In addition to representing our image in society, it also defines our own characters. An educated character will know how to behave in different situations.
I'm sure most men want to reach the threshold of GENTLEMAN or DOMN.
In addition to this aspect, I will also tell you about NICE GUY and PEOPLE PLEASER, namely, how not to fall into these extremes. They are extreme because they are also based on education, but it is taken to an extreme level of kindness and is accompanied by a weak character.
We start from the classic expression
The 7 years at home and what do they mean?
Behind these words lies the education transmitted by parents to the child and represents their image. The 7 years at home define your behavior in society, towards others. It clearly plays an important role so if you don't have it, get it right because it will help you.
The 7 years at home boil down to the way you address yourself, your attitude towards the world, kindness, empathy and of course politeness. These would be the first qualities transmitted by parents.
Your role is to cultivate them more and more and to take care of them. Now I want you to look at this education as a machine because it will take you as high as possible.
Your parents just give you the parts for the car, it's your responsibility to build it and get to your destination.
Of course, there are also more special cases where one or both parents were absent from your childhood.
Don't get angry about the situation and don't blame your parents, accept the situation as it was and smile. In this case, it's never too late to educate yourself, start with small steps and you will reach the desired result.
What I can recommend is to start with the way you communicate and how you address a person.
!!Attention!! Social education is not the same as school education!
If you do well in school, it doesn't necessarily mean that this represents your social education. They are two completely different things. As I said above, social education is how you treat others, how you behave, and how you are seen in society.
I'm sure that through the groups of friends you've been around, you've heard/seen at least once rude or rude behavior from one of your friends. To better understand, let's take the following example.
You go to a party at one of your friends' houses. You go with a young lady, there's nothing stable between you, you're in the getting to know each other phase.
You arrive at the party, your friend comes up to you, doesn't shake your hand, greets you verbally and then focuses his attention on the young lady because he's also attracted to her.
He treats you like you don't matter or don't belong there, he treats you with superiority just so he can stay with the girl. He even sends you to get him and her something to drink.
If you were to experience this scenario (excluding how it would make you feel), what would you think about that friend?
I'm sure they're just 'good' thoughts.
If that friend had been home for 7 years, he would have taken into account his etiquette (the way he greeted you), he would have respected your integrity (the fact that you were accompanied), he would have been hospitable to you (he would have made sure you were comfortable and if you wanted to serve something)
I hope you understand what the 7 years at home are all about.
NICE GUY and what does it mean?
The nice guy is represented by that educated guy who believes that if he treats a lady with a lot of politeness, he always buys her flowers when he feels something is wrong, he gives her all kinds of gifts just to make sure she won't be left behind.
This nice guy has no direction and believes that through material things and wearing a mask of "perfect and educated boy" he will attract the woman to him. He does not know how to be masculine and honest, he puts the woman above himself and does everything possible to please her.
At first, he may feel good, but by continuing to hide behind a mask and not showing his authentic self, the girl will get bored, see that he is not a man she can build a future with, and she will leave.
In short, when you received the message 'You know, you're a wonderful boy and I'm sure you'll find someone better who appreciates you...blah...blah... it's not your fault, it's mine', it's the clearest indication that you behaved like a nice guy.
How can you avoid this?
The first step I recommend is to start by setting a clear direction in life that you can follow without victimization.
Start working on your integrity by setting clear principles to follow.
To avoid the above situation, it would be best to express your intention from the beginning when entering into a connection.
PEOPLE PLEASER and what does it mean?
In short, this person can't say NO.
He puts himself last and will do things he doesn't agree with just to be accepted by others in a group.
He is willing to give up personal time to help others.
He doesn't know how to create win-win situations and is always frustrated.
How can you avoid this?
Start by saying NO to what you don't like and YES to what you do like.
Don't allow others to access your time when they want and how they want
Create win-win situations
GENTLEMAN and what does it mean?
Well, we come to the highlight of the article, THE GENTLEMAN.
This GENTLEMAN is the man who makes the rest of the women jealous by the way he treats his woman.
He is educated, provides leadership and direction, has integrity, knows how to say NO when necessary, and has well-established principles.
Takes a stand when he feels something is wrong and is educated in many areas, expresses masculinity
He knows how to be a good leader and women feel safe around him, he is desired by most women.
This GENTLEMAN has an image in society and is respected by everyone around him.
Do as much of each quality as you need.
These are just a few of its characteristics. If I told you all of them, I would bore you and lose you.
You can recognize him by the way he expresses himself, his image (clothing), and how he is treated by others.
I'm sure most of us want to reach this threshold. It won't happen overnight, it will be a long journey that requires perseverance and patience.
I recommend you watch the movies 'THE GENTLEMAN (2019)' and 'Kingsman: The Secret Service' and I want you to focus on the characters' behavior, clothing, way of expression, how they behave with women, not on the action.
As a first step in reaching the threshold of being a gentleman, I recommend that you start by improving your communication and address (vocabulary).
If I had to make a small map it would be the following!
Communication/expression- emotional healing- integrity/masculinity- game- business.
Image also plays an important role as we are in an era where clothes make the man. As a result, you also need a clothing style that represents you.
Tips & Tricks
- eliminates verbal parasites and verbal tics
- reduce verbal flow, speak more slowly
- maintain eye contact
- upright posture
- When you go to a new group, shake hands with everyone, not just say hello verbally.
- Treat a beggar with the same respect as you would a rich man.
This was the article! I hope I didn't lose you along the way and that after reading the article you were left with what you needed.
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