Hello men and women (I'm reading too), I hope you are well and having a wonderful day like you.
We decided this week to talk about a very important day that is approaching in terms of official and unofficial relationships. This day is February 14th, when a lot of love is manifested, Valentine's Day.
Probably a day when everyone declares their eternal love for the person they met.
I remember Valentine's Day...
Even I remember, when I was a good boy, how excited I was on this day when I was in a relationship or maybe I really liked a certain girl.
Whether or not I was in a relationship with her, I still wanted to win her love.
After all, that's how my mother taught me as a child to be with women, very kind, loving, affectionate and never to upset them.
You probably find yourself in this story of mine, if your father was often away or maybe they got divorced.
My mother taught me how she knew best, how she wanted to be treated in those moments. She taught me from logical and rational point of view.
I didn't know this information, which is why I always tried to go out of my way with every woman to make this day, Valentine's Day, an extraordinarily beautiful day.
When you're in a relationship with her on Valentine's Day
Let's take the story one by one to talk about each topic and tell you my own opinion and how I observe things now.
When you're in a relationship, it's a very good excuse to tell me that this is the reason why you're showing your eternal love to her.
You want to show your girlfriend what a gentleman you are on Valentine's Day, and the fact that you're in a relationship.
That you're better than everyone he sees on social media showing off with 30 roses, teddy bears, or love pictures of the two of you.
Well, how can you be inferior to them? Right?
I understand you, but my opinion is different when it comes to a relationship.
It really matters how long you've been with her.
It doesn't matter how long you've been with her when it comes to the relationship. If you've been with that woman for a week, do you already want to prove your undying love to her?
Do you think you already love her after a week? I'm not talking about that infatuation, I'm talking about a true love that builds over the years. Do you already feel this after a week? I don't think so.
Do you think you already have a relationship with her after a week? A serious and official relationship? When you haven't even met her friends, her family, how she reacts, how she thinks. Practically and theoretically, you don't really know anything about her.
If you do these things after a week, a month, what else should men who have been married for 20 years do?
You don't have the foundation of the relationship, you don't know her, and this can give her all the validation she needs to eventually leave you.
He will see that he can play on your "feelings" and will attack there every time.
I mention the following: not all women are the same, it matters a lot to see her typology.
You're just a copycat like the rest of the men.
I mentioned above how she sees all the posts on the internet of other girls with bouquets of flowers, stuffed animals, and other things like that. She has now become jealous of those women and comes and complains to you.
You, like a good boy, afraid of losing her, what do you do? You go and buy the exact same things she saw.
Do you believe, logically and rationally, that this is what she wants?
But emotionally, what happened? She tested you. She came complaining, indirectly ordered you something, and you executed it instantly.
You didn't do this because you feel like it, you didn't do this because you want to, you just did it for her sake.
And the woman doesn't want a man who instantly falls for her commands, dramas, and cries, like she's seen in Turkish soap operas.
First of all, coming back, He tested you.
Secondly, you're not differentiating yourself from the rest of the men by buying the same gifts, on the same day. You're doing exactly what the rest of the men are doing, copying. You're not authentic, you're not different.
You don't need a special day.
One very important thing we would learn is that: You don't need a special day to show love to the person next to you.
You don't have days like Valentine's Day, Christmas, New Year's Eve, Easter, Dragobete, etc. just because you want to prove how much you love her.
If you truly love her, you love her every day, not just on those days.
That's my opinion.
You will be expected to do this.
Another important aspect here is that the woman will expect you to buy her a gift on Valentine's Day. She already has in mind how to appear surprised when you bring her a gift, because she is used to other men buying her gifts on that day.
Where is the surprise? Where is the excitement? Where is the wonder?
The surprise, the gift, should be something nice and unexpected, in my opinion. And the day is already anticipated.
When you're not in a relationship with her on Valentine's Day
Let's also address the topic of when you're not in a relationship.
When you're not in a relationship with that girl, you tend to react for several reasons to buy her a Valentine's Day gift:
Are you afraid of losing her?
Fearing being alone in this world, not having a partner or someone to talk to, you react based on those emotions. You become alert and panic, and your mind starts to offer you solutions about the situation.
What solutions do they offer you? – "Buy her a Valentine's Day gift and you won't lose her. That way she'll love you more. That way you'll impress her"
But again this behavior comes from fear, anxiety resulting from emotional trauma from childhood.
What I'm suggesting here is to join the program I created, THE SUPERIOR ALPHA MAN INNER WORLD, to solve these behaviors.
Impressing a woman is not masculinity, it is weakness.
A man doesn't just sit around impressing a woman.
You think you're not good enough.
When you're afraid of losing her, you automatically think about the following:
"What if she talks to someone who gives her a gift and steals it from me?"
"What if someone else comes and takes her a gift, I didn't take it, and she leaves with him?"
And just like that, you enter the mental cycle, the mental trap of not believing yourself good enough, the emotional wound is activated and boom... you panic and go buy it for her even if she's not your girlfriend.
Your mother and the TV taught you seduction.
The fact that you didn't have a male role model in your life to teach you what a woman means, how she thinks, how to behave with her and in society, automatically your mother and soap operas, romantic movies took over this role.
Which formed in you a good boy behavior that doesn't upset anyone and doesn't bother anyone.
You learned that when you want to conquer a woman, you have to buy her gifts, declare your love for her every day, stand face to face with her, or beg for her.
What I went through as a child. Because my mother and father divorced. My mother raised me.
She taught me that a woman is won over with lots of sweetness and syrupiness.
Be very romantic.
Which for a new woman you're not in a relationship with inspires DESPERATENESS.
Conclusion
In conclusion, I want you to read everything I said above and make the necessary changes to avoid falling into those traps, if you want to evolve.
If you want more information and to continue your evolution, I invite you to my two programs:
THE SUPERIOR ALPHA MAN INNER WORLD – CLICK HERE
AUTHENTIC WAY OF ONLINE GAME – CLICK HERE
In addition to having video materials to watch, you will also join the WhatsApp group where I will be by your side throughout your evolution.
