Do you think you should support your wife financially? If so, then keep reading. If not, then you should read on, haha.
It will help you become a man.
Before we talk about the financially supported woman, I want to mention a few things. It's been a while since I've addressed topics related to masculinity, seduction, or personal development. Until recently, I've been writing articles about various topics such as:
Returning to our article about the financially supported woman, we will address several topics here, because many men do not make the difference between a financially supported woman and a mature woman.
About the financially supported woman
What do I mean when I say this? I'm referring to those "women" who expect their man to pay for everything. They want their partner to come up with the full financial contribution in terms of:
- chiria
- the foods
- utilities
- care products
- the trips
- the gifts
- getting your nails or hair done
- Waxing
Many more that we could list here, but they don't help us. I think you get the idea of what I mean. Some men consider this to be masculinity – to pay for everything to your partner. That's what they call a provider man, a masculine man.
I'm coming now and I'm going to counter this limiting belief about what a male provider means.
What is a male provider?
I have now searched for Google and you can't really find a definition for the words "provider man". I'm going to give you a definition after all the research, the information I've gathered in the field of seduction to help you understand what it means.
A provider man is one who provides security, trust and comfort to his woman and family. The man makes sure that the woman is safe from dangers that may arise and does not put her in too many stressful situations. How would it be? When the woman has a problem, the man is the one who finds the solution.
For example, if the female does not have the food to cook, he goes and gets it to ensure her safety, trust and comfort. The male stays around the nest, the female in the nest.
Responsibilities are shared.
Be careful. You need to learn to differentiate between a rescuer and an ethical one. A rescuer provider man will always jump to a woman's aid without letting her assume the consequences of her decisions or maturity.
A savior provider man will carry the "woman" on his back in everything that concerns the decisions in her life.
A male provider savior He will be the pillar of safety (the father) for the little girl who doesn't want to take charge of her life.
An ethical provider man will understand that his partner has her own rhythm, process, and lessons in life. He will NOT get in the way and will let her be independent, not just dependent on him.
A confident man doesn't make his partner dependent on him, he will seek to make her independent so they can be happy separately and only then together.
There are many more differences, but I just wanted to give you an overview to understand what the aspects are between the two.
What is a financially supported woman?
From my point of view, a financially supported woman is a little girl who was looking for her father and found him. Her "father" came into her life, and he takes responsibility for any mistake the girl makes.
This "father" saves the little girl from any imminent danger, as if she were a trinket and he doesn't want to break it.
This "father" understands her, compromises, and forgives this little girl whenever necessary just because he doesn't want to lose her.
This "father" doesn't communicate his boundaries, what bothers him, or what he would like a woman to do just for fear that the little girl will get mad at him.
This "father" seeks to protect her from anyone who seeks to attack the little girl, believing that she is not capable of defending herself, not letting her learn her lessons.
By now you understand the idea of what I mean when I say a financially supported woman and not a mature woman.
Why does the man financially support the woman?
You're probably wondering, "Why does a man support his woman financially?"
I'll give you an answer to this question so you can understand why he does it. A man who ends up financially supporting a woman does it for the following reasons:
- He wants to impress her.
- He doesn't want to upset or bother her.
- He doesn't want to appear weak in front of her.
- He is afraid to say NO.
- He is afraid of losing her.
- He is afraid of conflict.
- He's afraid he won't find a better woman than her.
- He wants to save her.
- He wants to get her attention, love, or validation.
- It gives what it is not by wearing a mask of "indestructibility"
We can go into more detail regarding each sub-point, but I will leave this to each person if they really want to. Anyone who wants to can schedule a free consultation by clicking below:
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What is a mature woman, even if she is financially supported?
A truly mature woman, who doesn't pretend to be what she isn't, who isn't just a conceited and clingy little girl, is a woman who returns a man's effort and investment.
This woman doesn't expect her man to do everything and support her.
This woman knows that he has the responsibility to bring money into the house, but she multiplies it through the feminine energy she has.
As an example: A man who brings all the financial contribution to the house, and the woman who takes care of the house (domestic actions).
This example is one of a healthy couple relationship and not a toxic one that affects the man.
The mature woman will support, help, and multiply what the man creates through his masculine energy, and a little girl will "eat" as if she deserves what she receives.
The difference is subtle, but enormous. Do you notice it?
Of course a man who is mature will always attract a woman who is mature. Like attracts like.
A little boy will likely attract a little girl who doesn't know what she wants from life.
How do you act if the "woman" becomes a little girl?
A few months ago I met a guy who was in this situation. He was in a 2 year relationship where he provided for everything. He provided for everything in the house, plus on top of that he also provided for:
- her basic needs (care products)
- cleaning products
- going out to cafes, restaurants or clubs
- Clothes and shoes
All of his finances went to her and almost none to him. This is a type of relationship where as a man you are "castrated" in terms of your masculinity, and the girl is the one who runs the relationship.
This boy was making a lot of compromises before he came to me and decided that "the knife had reached the bone," so he said a change was needed.
After talking with me and making a plan of action, he has now managed to get the woman to become attracted to him again and respect him.
As a conclusion to this sub-point, you need clarity in your relationship, and here I mean start telling that little girl your clear boundaries regarding your relationship.
For example, in my relationship, I cover and take care of the rent, utilities, vacations, and my partner takes care of the housework, food. It's a fair exchange for me, but you need to identify what fair exchange suits you.
Be careful. Once you start telling this girl boundaries, she will most likely get upset and stop talking to you. She will act indifferent, just to test your boundary that you have set. If she does this, don't give in and maintain the boundary that you have communicated.
He may even threaten to break up with you. It doesn't matter, you continue to maintain your boundaries and be a man.
Conclusion
As a conclusion to this article, I want to wake up as many men as possible who are in the situation of having a financially supported woman, because I was in this situation.
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