How do I get rid of suffering? What is suffering?
I'm going to call it mental illness. I'm going to call it that because we live in a time when we get angry at anyone for any reason, we let every little bit of malice affect us, every rejection from a friend, every nasty look thrown at us, every bit of "it could happen" when you haven't even started. And now you're going to say: "Come on, Sebi, leave me with these philosophies. Get to the point, how do I get rid of suffering?!"
That's the point, my dears. Suffering is a disease of the mind like everything I described above...
I've always liked to express my point of view through comparison because I find it makes me more understandable. Besides, statistically speaking, people tend to learn/understand faster when they have something to associate with.
Do you know what cigarettes do?
It creates addiction.
HOW?
Let me explain it to you so you can understand better. I'm an ace at this because I haven't smoked in 3 years.
I quit in the summer of 2018. At the beginning of the summer I decided to quit smoking. I researched everything about addiction and how to combat it first and foremost. The smoking industry relies on two types of addiction so that you can continue to be a consistent consumer.
- The first is the Involvement. You are used to smoking with friends, over a glass of wine, over the immeasurable and drinkable coffee, while waiting for the train, while waiting for your girlfriend to get off, that is, in social situations of life. "Hello, what's up with that, Sebi?" . In order to free yourself from this vice, you must understand that there will be a period of apathy in social moments.
- The second is the biology. Your body gets used to the dose of nicotine you give it at a certain time. You give it, and after a while it asks for it again. Combined with the addiction in social contexts, this makes this addiction unstoppable.
So, as an idea, after stopping any ATTACHMENT there is a period of suffering. THE SUFFERING/WITHDRAWAL PERIOD comes from the physical and emotional ATTACHMENT you have towards that thing.
What does it have to do with SUFFERING?
HOW DO I GET RID OF SUFFERING?
Suffering is just a reaction of the body after coming out of a period of attachment. If you have been married or had a girlfriend for more than 2 years, be sure that you will suffer, be sure that you will feel like shit. You lived with that person in the same house, you ate with them, you did all the possible and impossible things with them, it is normal to feel like SHIT.
Besides that, you created an emotional connection that you nourished throughout the relationship. Through sex and intimacy, you created an even stronger bond from which you drew energy and recharged your batteries. Your body felt amazing. It is normal and right to have a period of withdrawal/pain.
What do you need to understand?
With the right mindset (the information and perspective I'm giving you here), the bad period will pass. But you have to understand that without patience and understanding towards yourself first, you won't reach peace that quickly. Give yourself love and understanding.
Suffering is not you, suffering is the connections your brain has created, the attachments your body has nurtured. The better you understand that suffering is not you, the faster you will get over the "disease of the mind" - suffering.
I've been working as an entertainer/dancer on the beach for over 6 years. I have parties every night, meet people and have cool social situations every night. In the summer when I got rid of this addiction I went through a month full of moments where I could have gone back to the same habits.
And when I say habits, I don't just mean smoking, I also mean the avalanche of thoughts that are associated with the habit of smoking, for example: "a cigarette doesn't hurt"; "there won't be a fire now if I have a smoke"; "come on, I'll just do it tonight".
I could fall into the same habits at any time because my body was living in withdrawal/in suffering.
When I understood that I am not my mind, I am not the habits and suffering inside me, things became cool. Yes, COOL! It became cool to quit smoking! I was going through a terrible withdrawal, but there was a joy in the background, there was a "I know it will pass, and when it passes I will be the happiest".
In suffering there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. You just have to see it to know it exists. Once you have seen it, all you have to understand is that it takes a while to get there. But it does exist!
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