In the past, I've had quite a few meetings that ended with him not answering me, to leave me alone and automatically not go on a second date with that woman.
I always wondered: Why? What did I do wrong?
This is a quality of mine. I always analyze my mistakes to know what I can improve.
I recommend you do this too. It will help you quite a bit.
Now back to our topic. I analyzed my meetings and there was always one thing in common.
A common denominator that keeps repeating itself over and over again.
You tend to talk about your past relationships.
This common denominator was a cause that didn't lead to a second date, and that was the fact that I was always talking about my past relationships.
I started telling everything that happened, how it happened in great detail. Which is a pretty big mistake, especially if you like the woman and want to go out with her again.
I didn't realize this at the time. I thought it was something normal.
On top of this, what I wasn't aware of, I was also dramatizing, complaining, or even victimizing myself. Oh, what it could do to me.
You say I was a little baby who didn't get his lollipop. I was a little child who vented in front of an adult.
What do you mean by that?
You need a mommy.
Through your victim behavior, you are inspiring the woman in front of you that you need a mother because you are still a child.
As a child, you learned through various actions that if you go to your mother to complain, you will be rewarded for it. It's an emotional wound., where your energy flows and certain reactions come out.
You went to her, complained, dramatized, and your mother came to love you.
Or maybe you were doing this and your mother was scolding you.
Whatever the cause, you're left with this reaction with the women in your life. You think that if you go to her to complain, she'll love you and give you affection.
I mean, in short, you see her as your mother. You being in the position of a child at that moment.
Which for a woman is not attractive at all. It is notThat's attractive.
A woman doesn't need a child, and she needs a man in her life.
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Why does he need it?
She needs a confident, masculine, self-assured man who is not stuck in the past and still suffering from the past. A woman does not want to raise a child who will offer to "fuck her ass."
She doesn't want to be in the position of a man and you in the position of a woman. She wants to lead you, protect you, and be the man of the "family." The woman is looking for protection, looking for a man who can open up in his arms, to be vulnerable.
She's not looking for a man to raise.
This leads to not getting to the 2nd date.
You inspire them that you already want a relationship
The second, quite important thing that a woman hates is giving her the feeling that you're rushing things.
I'd rather ask you: How do you feel when someone tries to put pressure on you?
Do you feel like running away? Getting out of there?
So does a woman. The moment you give her the feeling that you want to rush things, she feels pressure, she will run away as fast as her legs can carry her. She doesn't want to feel those negative emotions.
And by the fact that you're already talking about a past relationship, about what happened then, you give him this feeling. You give him the feeling that you want a relationship then.
And to give her that feeling from the very first date? It's a wow thing for her. It's pretty creepy.
The woman wants something natural, spontaneous, to feel that everything flows like "flowing water".
What effects does it bring?
This automatically leads to not having a second date. The woman in question gets into negative emotions, leading her to the point where she stops responding to you or blocks you everywhere.
She doesn't want to feel these things, and the moment she does, you become a negative obstacle that she wants to eliminate from the start.
Especially, he won't feel that sexual tension towards you. It kills every hormone he has in his body.
Conclusion
Avoid talking about past relationships as much as possible, especially on a first date. It's pointless and doesn't help you at all.
You have friends to do this with.
Unless you want to label that woman as a friend already, because you're not attracted to her, then ignore this advice.
Do you want to have the same results as before or do you want to change them?
