I previously posted examples of approaches on Facebook, and now I'll show you examples of approaches on Instagram to help you be successful with women.
I don't guarantee that you won't receive SEEN or dry and short answers, but they will be much more impactful than how you approached it in the past.
The importance of the first impression on Instagram
In the digital age, first impression it is no longer formed only in real life, but also in the online environment. Instagram is your virtual business card, whether you use it for social media, personal or business brandingIn a matter of seconds, someone forms an opinion about you just by looking at your profile.
✅ Why is the first impression important on Instagram?
- Decide if someone is following you or not 🧐
- It influences the interactions and messages you receive. 💬
- Increases your chances of networking, collaborations or online success 🚀
- Reflect who you are and what you want to convey to the world. 🌍
If you want to have a profile that attracts more followers, likes and quality messages, here it is how to create a strong first impression on Instagram! ????
Other examples of approaches on Instagram
What to avoid when approaching on Instagram – Mistakes that lower your chances 🚫📩
Approaching a person on Instagram it can be opportunity or disaster, according to how do you do itIn a world where inboxes are full of generic, strange or boring messages, If you want to get someone's attention in a positive way, you need to know what to avoid.
If you wish to do a good impression and to have more positive responses, avoid these common mistakes when you send a message on Instagram! 👇
🔹 1. Don't send generic messages or boring clichés
❌ "Hello, how are you?"
❌ "You are very beautiful."
❌ “Hey, I notice you have Instagram too.”
🔹 Why is it wrong?
- There are too generic and they don't attract attention.
- A person who receives many similar messages she will not be impressed.
- It doesn't create any real connection or interest.
✅ What to do instead?
✔ Refer to something specific from her profile.
✔ Notice a post, a hobby, or something in the bio and use it as a starting point.
✔ Example: "I saw you were in Rome! What places would you recommend to someone going there for the first time?"
📌 If you want to get a response, you have to give a good reason to get one!
🔹 2. Don't insist if you don't get a response
❌ Send a message.
❌ After a few hours, send "???".
❌ Then: "Hey, why aren't you answering?"
🔹 Why is it wrong?
- It makes you seem needy and desperate.
- Each person has their own pace of responding.
- If he doesn't answer you, either she is not interestedor is busy.
✅ What to do instead?
✔ If you don't receive a response, stop insisting.
✔ Respect their time and space.
✔ If he wants to answer, he will. If not, accept it and move on.
📌 Those who insist too much become irritating, not attractive.
🔹 3. Don't "like spam" all the photos before sending a message
❌ Give 20 likes to all posts from the last 2 years.
❌ Comment on each picture "🔥🔥🔥".
❌ Then send a message: "Hey, I noticed you. Let's talk."
🔹 Why is it wrong?
- Stop desperate and artificial.
- It can create a strange impression ("why are you checking pictures from 2019?").
- It doesn't show genuine interest, just a forced attempt to get attention.
✅ What to do instead?
✔ One like subtle on a recent post is enough.
✔ If you want to comment, do so natural and authentic, not exaggerated.
✔ Choose one post that caught your attention and mention it in the message.
📌 Subtle attention is more attractive than exaggeration.
🔹 4. Don't use cringe-worthy lines
❌ "You're so hot you melted my screen."
❌ "Are you from Mars? Because you look extraterrestrially good."
❌ "Your mother is a thief! She stole all the stars and put them in your eyes."
🔹 Why is it wrong?
- There are boring and predictable.
- Many women have heard them hundreds of times.
- It doesn't create a real conversation.
✅ What to do instead?
✔ Be natural and start a real conversation.
✔ Use spontaneous humor, but without contrived lines.
✔ Example: "Do you like to travel? If you had to choose only one city to live in forever, which would it be?"
📌 Authentic humor beats any stale line!
🔹 5. Don't ask for Snapchat, WhatsApp or meetings right away
❌ "Give me your Snap."
❌ "Can you give me your number?"
❌ "Let's meet, directly, what do you say?"
🔹 Why is it wrong?
- People don't easily give out their personal contacts to strangers.
- It may seem too direct and suspicious.
- Most women prefer to chat first before providing personal information.
✅ What to do instead?
✔ Build first a relaxed and pleasant conversation.
✔ After a few exchanges, you can ask, "Would you like to move the conversation to WhatsApp when you feel comfortable?"
✔ If things go well, the invitation to a meeting should be natural, not rushed.
📌 People feel more comfortable when there is a connection, not just a sudden request.
🔹 6. Don't ask too personal questions from the start
❌ "How old are you?"
❌ "Did you love?"
❌ "How many guys have you been with before?"
🔹 Why is it wrong?
- Too direct questions about personal life can be invasive.
- People don't want to feel like they are interview at the first conversation.
- Building a connection it must be natural, not forced.
✅ What to do instead?
✔ Start with relaxed and common topics – travel, hobbies, music, movies.
✔ Leave the conversation to evolve organically.
✔ Example: "I noticed you like to read. What was the last book you really enjoyed?"
📌 An authentic conversation is built with natural questions, not interrogation.
Tips for keeping the conversation interesting
A good conversation can create strong connections, be it about a romantic date, online socializing or networkingThe problem is that sometimes the discussions become boring, forced, or monotonous.
If you want to know how to keep a conversation interesting and engaging, follow these simple and effective strategies! ️
🔹 1. Avoid generic and clichéd questions
❌ "What are you doing?"
❌ "How was your day?"
❌ "How's the weather where you are?"
🔹 Why are they boring?
- There are too vague and I get short answers ("Fine, how are you?").
- It doesn't create a real connection.
- Does not offer nothing exciting to continue the discussion.
✅ What to do instead?
✔ Put open questions which provides space for stories.
✔ Example: "What was the best moment of your day?"
✔ Example: "If you could be anywhere right now, where would you want to be?"
📌 A good question can turn a mundane conversation into a memorable one!
🔹 2. Use the “70/30 Rule” – Make her talk more
If you speak just about you, the person in front of you will not be involved in the conversation.
✅ The perfect strategy:
✔ 70% of the time – Let the other person talk.
✔ 30% of the time – Share things about yourself too.
✔ Use follow-up questions to show that you are interested.
🇧🇷 Example:
She: "I like to travel."
You: "Very cool! What was your most memorable trip?"
🔹 (After answering) "And do you have a place you really want to go?"
📌 People love to talk about themselves! If you make them feel listened to, they'll want to continue the conversation.
🔹 3. Compliment intelligently, but don't overdo it
Compliments are great for maintain interest in a conversation, but it has to be specific and authentic.
✅ Good compliments:
✔ “I like how you see things, you have an interesting perspective.”
✔ "You have a very captivating way of telling stories, I could listen to you for hours."
✔ "You have a positive energy that makes conversation super enjoyable."
🚫 What to avoid?
❌ Compliments only on physical appearance ("You are beautiful", "You have beautiful eyes").
❌ Compliments exaggerated or forced ("You are the most interesting person in the world").
📌 A sincere compliment can increase interest, but don't use it as a manipulation technique.
🔹 4. Be spontaneous and add humor
Laughter creates a fast and natural connection between people.
✅ How to bring humor into conversation:
✔ Use light self-irony: "I'm an expert at ordering too much food and then regretting it."
✔ Tell a story funny situations in your life: "I once tried to cook pasta and burned the water."
✔ Play with unexpected answers: "If you could live in any era, where would you want to live? I'd probably live in the future, to see if Elon Musk really takes us to Mars."
📌 Don't force the jokes, but if you bring a funny touch, the conversation becomes much more relaxed and engaging.
🔹 5. Create “in-depth” conversations
A conversation becomes interesting when goes beyond the surface.
✅ Questions that create deeper connections:
✔ "What is the most important thing you have learned in the last year?"
✔ "What are you really passionate about that you could talk about for hours?"
✔ "What was the craziest thing you've ever done?"
📌 When you discuss passions and experiences, you create a real connection!
🔹 6. Avoid short and monotonous answers
If you answer with "Yes", "no" or "ok", the conversation dies quickly.
✅ How to give more engaging answers:
🔹 Instead of "I like music", he says "I like indie music because it has deep lyrics and a relaxing vibe. What genre do you prefer?"
🔹 Instead of "I had a good day", he says "Today I discovered a brilliant cafe where they make the best caramel coffee! Do you like coffee?"
📌 A more detailed answer provides more opportunities to continue the discussion.
Conclusion
You notice that it differs from person to person how a woman responds to addressing on Instagram. In most cases it depends on your profile. The approach is only part of the whole structure.
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See also: How to start a conversation on Tinder
