You may have been a little surprised by the title "How do you let yourself be humiliated by a woman?" which I will explain later. Before you understand this title, I want to remind you of the last article that was written and will help you in your development.
The last article that was written is:
How to get a girl's attention? 14 useful tips
Returning to our sheep. When I had the inspiration to choose this title I was at the train station in Constanta and we saw a man looking at a car loan, probably to purchase a car.
At that moment, I made a correlation with the area I work in and a light bulb went off, haha.
What does humiliated mean? About humility
The word "humiliated" refers to the state or action of being brought into a position or state of inferiority, submission, or embarrassment in the eyes of other people or a situation. Being humiliated generally means feeling offended, humiliated, or subjected to injustice or actions that affect one's dignity or self-respect.
Humiliation can take many forms, including verbal, physical, psychological, or social. It is important to emphasize that humiliation is often considered a negative and unwanted action because it affects a person's emotional and mental state and can have serious consequences for the individual's self-esteem and mental health.
In a broader context, the term "humiliation" can also be used to describe the act of discrediting or denigrating someone in public or treating them with contempt, which can have negative consequences on interpersonal relationships and the social environment.
What do I mean when I say humiliated?
I'm referring to those "men" who claim to love women.
To better understand, I'm thinking of a correlation that you can understand logically.
Are you in a relationship with a woman with a nose up and you act like you have a lifetime loan from her.
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You pay that woman your monthly loan by torturing and struggling to finish it. You constantly let yourself be humiliated as if you owed her.
You entered a mental prison where you believe that the woman is clearly superior to you and you have to pay her debt.
Of course these things are only in your mind. Why?
I'll explain it to you right away in the next title, but until then, let me point out some things.
You are in a relationship where the woman humiliates you by:
- He's acting like shit to you.
- Disrespecting you
- Doesn't take into account what you want and your needs
- It steps on your head both literally and figuratively
- They don't appreciate you for what you are and what you offer.
- He wants to change you.
- She acts like you're addicted to her.
- You are constantly frustrated, angry, and wronged.
- You are afraid to tell him what you want to avoid conflict.
- Makes conflict out of almost every little thing
Are you finding yourself or have you found yourself?
The domineering, possessive, and castrating mother who humiliates
To answer your question: "Why do I end up seeing the woman as a mother and I'm getting wet.?" or "Why do I end up seeing the woman clearly superior to me and feel like I owe her for life by letting myself be humiliated?".
Answer the following questions:
As a child, did you have a mother who played both roles for you? Both mother and father?
This is because your father was away or seemed indifferent in making decisions in the house.
Was your mother quite possessive of you?
Does your mother scold you for almost everything?
Does your mother take out all her frustration and anger on you?
Does your mother physically or verbally abuse you?
Is your mother suffocating you?
Did your mother make you feel guilty when you were angry with her?
Did your mother make you feel indebted to her?
If you have gone through these aspects then your masculine energy has been "castrated".
Your masculine energy, your masculinity is kept on a "leash".
Deep down you feel indebted to your mother for that, you will enter into a relationship with a possessive woman where you will pay through humiliation. Unconsciously.
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Signs that you are being humiliated by a woman – humiliation in a relationship
Below I will present some of the signs that you as a man show when interacting with women or in a relationship when you allow yourself to be humiliated:
- you avoid conflicts through various methods: you hide, lie or don't communicate
- you try to be evasive in your expression for fear of conflict
- avoid communicating what bothers you
- you bow your head when she yells at you or insults you
- you swallow all her "tricks" to make you feel guilty
- you think you're the only one who made a mistake
- you let yourself be manipulated, fooled into doing things
- you feel like you're the slave and she's the boss in charge
- you don't ask for your needs and desires
- you don't impose limits on yourself or if you do, you make a lot of compromises
- you constantly feel indebted to that woman
- Are you looking for love, affection, or attention?
- you are not allowed to do certain actions, but she is allowed to
- you constantly feel inferior
- You want to explode with anger at any moment, but you don't let yourself.
These are the most main characteristics of a love loan.
My story and the humiliation I accepted
I want to be honest with you. Almost every relationship I've been in has put me in a position where I have the characteristics above.
I felt so guilty and indebted to that woman that I had to swallow a lot of abuse, disrespect, castration, possessiveness, etc.
That's just because I let myself be fooled and trampled on, thinking that I was always wrong and at fault.
I want to tell you that in the past I have accepted many insults, blows just for the sake of this.
I was ashamed to share these things at the time, but by working with yourself and developing yourself, you learn to accept yourself.
To become aware of certain traumatic childhood patterns that you have and follow unconsciously.
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Many men probably won't have the courage to communicate what I said, but maybe they can find themselves in my story.
Relationships that I saw as a prison where I accepted my fate of being humiliated.
The woman was the mother who abused, beat, and insulted me, and I humiliated myself by accepting my fate, believing that this is what I deserve.
But it's not like that. It's only in your mind. You're in a mental prison.
What to do if you are humiliated by a woman?
Until you as a man realize that you are in a vicious cycle created from your childhood or take your masculinity into your own hands to assert yourself regardless of the consequences, nothing will change.
If you run away from this relationship, guess what will happen in the next one?
Same thing.
You go around in circles with relationships that humiliate you. You spin like a puppy around its tail, and then you wonder why you can't have happy, loving relationships too.
Start doing the following things:
- become aware of the emotional patterns you repeat
- Write on a piece of paper when this happened to you as a child.
- communicate boundaries regardless of consequences
- maintain boundaries regardless of the consequences
- Prioritize yourself and stop trying to put yourself last.
- let anger express itself (not in a destructive way)
- realize that anger is part of your masculinity
- start taking cold showers to strengthen male energy
- start exercising to increase your strength
- regain your strength and trust from your parents (mother in principle)
- retrieve your "eggs" from the castrating female
- be direct and honest with what you think and feel
Uhhhh, I have so much energy and I could go on, but I'll stop here.
The wound of humiliation
I don't know if you have any idea, but in psychology there is an emotional wound that affects a man's self-confidence, especially in a relationship. This is called the wound of humiliation.
This usually occurs between the first and third years of life.
Why then?
During this period, children gain a certain amount of autonomy over their bodies. For the first time in their lives, they can eat on their own, walk on two legs, and even give up diapers.
How does the wound of humiliation heal?
At some point, young children may have felt humiliated, criticized, or compared to others by their parents. For example, they may have soiled their clothes, wet the bed, or acted out of control in a typical childish way and been ridiculed, repressed, or labeled as dirty or unworthy.
How does the wound of humiliation manifest itself?
- Do you feel that suffering is a constant in your life. Everything is an effort for you, and your efforts are often unsuccessful. It is difficult for you to imagine ever achieving what you truly want.
- You often feel ashamed of yourself. You tend to get involved in situations that make you feel ridiculous or choose partners who humiliate or hurt you.
- You don't like to go fast, but you don't allow yourself to go at your own pace either. Plus, you're ashamed that you can't keep up with others.
- You give too much to other people. You do everything for them, even putting aside your own wants and needs. Deep down, you hope that they recognize and appreciate your work, but this never happens. On the contrary, they tend to take advantage of you or outdo you.
- You are shy, insecure, and indecisive. You worry about what others think of you, especially your parents, whom you are always trying to please.
- You are hypersensitive and easily hurt. Criticism affects you excessively and you don't know how to deal with it.
- You feel responsible for the happiness of others and you take care of things that are none of your business. Sometimes, you feel like you are carrying too much on your shoulders, but you can't help yourself.
- You may have sexual problems related to embarrassment and difficulty allowing yourself to enjoy yourself. You may view sexuality as something dirty or something you are not worthy of.
- You tend to compensate for your negative emotions with food, especially sweet ones. Food acts as a reward and consolation for you. However, you are embarrassed when others see you eating. you eat and feel guilty for this thing.
Conclusion ending the cycle of humiliation
I strongly recommend that you quickly and thoroughly resolve this love loan, because many men go through this ordeal for years. I went through it for years in past relationships until I realized it and resolved it.
That's why I suggest you quickly schedule a 1 on 1 free to discuss solutions you can apply.
