Does tonality matter?
I was saying in a video on the cannula our YOUTUBE that you can't communicate rationally, logically with a woman.
You can't understand a woman like that. With a woman you have to communicate emotionally and think emotionally to understand her. (Video clip HERE)
You best realize, and this will never lie to you, is The TONE of her voice. You will be able to tell a lot of things by the tone of her voice. From what she wants, what she likes, to whether she is attracted to you or not, she is not attracted to you by putting you in the "Definitely NOT" category.
What to watch out for
With a woman you always have to pay attention to what is behind her words, not what she says. If you believe every word she says, you will lose every time as a man. You have to pay attention to what is behind her words. And you can tell this by the tone she has.
It can be a musical tone when it is happy.
It can be a childish tone when it is tender, loving, affectionate.
It can be a monotonous tone when he has lost respect for you.
Never take her words for SURETY. If you do, you're just being logical, rational.
Pay attention to the details in her tone. Because she may say NO, but behind it all is YES.
A very good example
To give you an even more concrete example, or rather a story. I was on a date with a woman, who was saying in her words that I DON'T LIKE IT, that SHE'S NOT ATTRACTED TO ME etc., but in fact it was not so.
If I had believed her words, I would have already lost myself there. Instead, I paid attention to what was behind her words, to her tone. She was saying this, but she was saying it in a playful, childish way, she wasn't serious at all. So, knowing this, I continued to stand there, because I knew she was attracted to me. She was saying NO, but in fact it was a YES.
She can even say NO, but at the same time kiss you. Because she says NO rationally, but emotionally it's a YES. She doesn't even realize why she's attracted to you, but something clearly tells her that she likes you. She consciously thinks that she doesn't want you, but a much greater force (the emotional one) pushes her to like you.
What happens when you pay attention to tonality?
If you master these small details, this attention to detail, you will know every time what a woman wants to convey to you.
You'll come to know when he's testing you, when he's serious.
Because I'm not saying there's always something behind her words, there are times when she really means it and you have to believe her, because she really means it. But in 80% of the cases, there's something behind those words.
A second example..
Another, more concrete example. You want to go out with the guys for a beer, but she comes up to you and says: You never go out with me. You don't have time for me. You go drinking with that. (low pitch)
And because you don't want to upset her and take her words seriously, you start telling her: Okay, I'm not going anymore. We're going out on Saturday.
It's Saturday, you go to tell her that you have to go out as you agreed, and she says: CUm, you mean? You don't have to go out with the boys?
You remain astonished, surprised because you took her words seriously. You did not pay attention to her tone, Why is he doing this?
Because she, then, is just testing you., he wanted to see what kind of man you are!
If you want to learn more, then I recommend the book HOW TO MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP or HOW TO BECOME CONFIDENT?
The first will open up your perspective more in relation to women, and the second will help you with self-confidence.
See you next time. Smile, it's free!
