Many questions I receive on Instagram page or free facebook group for men are formulated as follows: "Why is it hard to respond to messages??”, “What should I do if he has difficulty responding to messages?","I write to him and he replies after a few hours or a few days, what should I do?".
In this post we will talk about the reasons "Why is it hard to respond to messages?".
PS: Before you start reading, I also made a video clip on the Youtube page about this topic.
Women's "good" reasons - Why they have a hard time responding to messages
Honestly, I just woke up not long ago and decided to get to work writing this article. Otherwise I would have lost my ideas and it would have been harder for me to find inspiration, haha.
When it comes to "why is she slow to respond to messages?" the woman will give you several "good" reasons, told by her.
Reasons that will sometimes be shitty reasons to get her out of trouble or reasons that are actually true.
- "I didn't have time to answer"
- "I don't really have my phone in my hand"
- "I didn't see the messages"
- "I was in town and forgot to answer"
- "I am very busy"
- "I work very hard and don't have time to respond"
These reasons came to me now to exemplify them for you and understand what I mean.
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Why do I say they are "reasonable" reasons?
Have you ever seen a woman who is attracted to a man in the truest sense of the word?
How do they react and behave?
If that woman is attracted and interested in that man, believe me, she will drop everything or do anything to respond to the man for fear of losing him.
He takes even 5 seconds to answer and say "I'll answer more slowly because X".
Even you as a man, if you are interested in that woman and you like her, you want to do something with her, you communicate to her that you have work or that you are more difficult to answer from RESPECT.
So, if she tells you the reasons above in a few hours or a day, especially without apologizing, it's clearly a "good" reason on her part.
What is the truth about "good reasons"?
The truth behind the "good" reasons for not responding to messages is that you are not a priority. There is another person in her chat, another man who is much more interesting and attractive than you.
And that man is her priority. You're either a filler, a backup plan, or a man who keeps her in the game by the ankles in case the priority one leaves.
This is the harsh truth, comrade. It's not that he doesn't have time or that he doesn't spend much time on the phone.
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The only exception to the rule "Why is it so hard to respond to messages?"
The only women who are exceptions to the rule are those women who give you messages like:
She: "Sorry for the late reply, but I was busy with X thing and didn't have time to let you know."
She: "I'm sorry to be responding so late, but I really didn't have a way to let you know."
Yes, other women can play with shitty motives, but the fact that she apologizes shows her commitment and respect for you as a man.
What should I do if he has difficulty responding to messages?
Even if she says it like I said in "The Only Exception to the Rule," she still doesn't forgive her easily. Tell her the following if you encounter such situations:
You: "I understand, you've probably been busy and haven't had much time to respond. Neither you nor I spend a lot of time on the phone, taking care of our priorities, but still, to maintain respect for each other and not let the conversation go to waste, let's let each other know when we have work, what do you say? Otherwise, I'll lose interest in this conversation and end it later. Is that okay with you too?"
For women who give you reasons and excuses, but without apologizing to you, you tell them the following:
You: "I understand what you're saying, but we both know that this is b*llshit. When a person wants to respond, they take 5 seconds to communicate that they have work to do.
True? (You're hitting on them here) So let's put these things aside and from now on communicate when we have business without finding reasons and excuses, that is if there is interest, if not please tell me and there is no offense. If there is interest, we talk, we have a fluent and respectful conversation, and later we go out face2face. If there is no interest, you tell me and we each see each other in our own way. But I think you are an open and nice woman enough to have a nice conversation, what do you say?"
What did I do if he has difficulty responding to messages?
I have shown that:
- I respect myself.
- I know what I want from a woman.
- I'm not afraid of losing her.
- I think a lot when it comes to women.
- I have rules and principles for life.
- I don't swallow shit that easily.
- I trust myself.
- I am sure of myself.
- I am direct and honest.
How many things have I been able to show in a single message? That's because I have certain rules and principles of life that I follow. I don't let myself be swayed by the wind and I know where I want to go.
Simple rules to avoid getting lost (and stay attractive)
- Don't duplicate messages. compulsive. You initiate once; if he doesn't respond, you wait.
- Don't punish. (irony, sarcasm, "tests"). It's childish.
- Say what you want.: "I prefer a conversation with pace and I'll let you know when you're caught."
- Propose a real meeting after 5–10 messages flowing. Chatting is not the goal.
- Keep your life full. (work, sports, friends). Attraction comes from your center, not from the screen.
What do you communicate about yourself when you handle the situation maturely?
- I respect myself. and I respect my time.
- I know what I want. (clear boundaries, flowing conversation).
- I'm not afraid to lose. (abundance, not panic).
- I have principles. and I express them calmly.
- I am direct and honest. (no games, no skits).
A single well-worded message can convey all of this.
Common mistakes when it difficult to respond to messages
- You send them justification "essays" or passive-aggressive reproaches.
- You act like a inspector (cross-questions, "whys").
- You are following her on social media (digital stalking).
- You lose your dignity (begging, pressure, emotional blackmail).
All of this scad attractiveness and respect.
When to end the conversation
- Lack of commitment + inconstancy within a few interactions.
- You feel like you're the only one pushing everything hard.
- appear lies or obvious manipulations.
Elegant closing message:
"Thank you for the conversations we had. I'm looking for a flowing exchange of messages and minimal predictability. I'm not feeling that right now, so I'll stop here. I wish you all the best."
Dignified, clean, without burning bridges.
Conclusion
Be careful of women's reasons and excuses, if you believe them too easily you fall into their trap and they think they "tricked" you into getting away with it.
If it bothers you and it's a clear "No Way" action, then there are consequences that he will take on.
If you don't have the courage and nerve to communicate the above, I invite you to schedule a free consultation with me to discuss in more detail. How do you do this? Click on the link below:
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FAQ — "Hard to respond to messages": quick questions
1) If I like it a lot, do I insist?
Not. Invite once, proposes interval. No consistent response → move on.
2) He replied after 3 days. What do I do?
Check ACCOUNTABILITYIf there is ("sorry, it was X, I'll be back at 20:00 PM"), you can continue. If not, you politely hang up.
3) How long do I wait between messages?
It depends on her pace. As a rule, don't write twice in a row if he didn't answer.
4) How do I increase attractiveness in chat?
Short, clear, propose experience (a coffee, a walk), not endless conversations. Humor + direction > analysis.
