I don't know if you've heard, as I didn't either and I learned from other people, the story of Cătălin Bordea, Spike and Livia Bordea. I was momentarily surprised, amazed, but nevertheless, it was something to be expected if we relate to the long time his partner spent with another man.
Warning. What I say here is just a strictly personal opinion. I don't know the exact story, but I make up certain scenarios based on my imagination.
I was on an article on DigiFm where it says this:
"Catalin Bordea made new revelations behind the scenes of his divorce from Livia, who was his life partner for 10 years. The comedian told how he asked her several times if she was having an extramarital affair with Spike, but she denied everything. Bordea learned from the press that his ex-wife is in a relationship with Spike, who was his best man at his wedding to Livia.
The 38-year-old actor made tearful confessions about the most difficult moment of his life. Cătălin Bordea gave new details about the divorce from Livia and what happened between them on the day the woman left the marital home. The comedian is still affected by the separation from his ex-wife.
Bordea said he never expected to be on the verge of divorce, let alone that the woman he wanted to spend the rest of his life with would cheat on him with one of his best friends. Although he preferred to keep quiet for several months, now Cătălin Bordea was angry when he heard Spike talking badly about him and bragging about stealing Livia from him."
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Why did Livia Bordea cheat on Cătălin Bordea?
I don't know if you know, but when it comes to the world of seduction, masculinity, etc. things are different. There are several planes that influence us, and one of them is the emotional and spiritual one.
Many women, even men, are not aware of these plans or do not emphasize them when it comes to what is happening in their lives.
Many times, I have suffered what Cătălin Bordea suffered, maybe even you, as your girlfriend or wife to deceive you with your best friend, comrade, etc.
You are that very hardworking, gentle man at home, who never comments and seeks to please his girlfriend or wife (The Good Boy Syndrome), but you still end up being cheated on or abandoned.
How come this?
The woman doesn't want you to become a homeboy who lives up to her expectations, demands, or exaggerations.
A woman doesn't want a man who only knows work and home.
The woman doesn't want a man who doesn't have an identity and is afraid of upsetting or bothering her.
The woman wants a man to lead and "control" her, not for her to lead and control him.
When I say control, I mean something completely different.
I don't know the whole story exactly, but I'm trying to guess. It's possible that Cătălin Bordea was very busy with work, forgetting about spontaneity, fun, dopamine in terms of marriage, and Livia Bordea, who may have emotional problems with her father, has an attention addiction.
Which made Spike her shoulder to cry on at those exact moments. That "friendzone" who likes the woman in question, but tries to get under her skin, because the distant man doesn't listen to her or understand her.
Did you catch it?
How do I know these things? Because I've experienced them myself in past relationships, when I was a "good boy" and wanted my mom at home so everything would be quiet, without any hassle, etc.
I wanted my mother at home and I wanted to work. I was putting the woman in the position of mother and not partner.
Most likely she was putting me in the position of a father and not a partner.
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What did Cătălin Bordea do to end up cheating on Spike?
As I said and I'll say it again, this is a strictly personal opinion that I give from what I've deduced. I'm telling and presenting from my experience and information about masculinity, seduction, relating to women, etc.
Many of you have probably been in a situation where you get into a relationship and say:
"Okay, I found the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with.! "
You won her, you conquered her, now you have the certainty that she is by your side. The idea that a woman needs to be conquered daily has gone from your head.
You start to stop taking care of yourself, your happiness, your hobbies and passions. You start to become monotonous in everything.
You start to put her happiness and what she wants above yourself. She starts to become the center of your universe and your source of happiness.
You start to consider her your mother on a psychological and subconscious level, through the mental triggers she gives you.
You start giving the woman power and let her easily take on the role of a man.
The woman takes power and begins to become the man.
Slowly, she starts giving you orders, making you afraid and afraid to say no, making you afraid of losing her, etc. You only go to work and home with her. Nothing more. You isolate yourself from friends, from other people.
You talk about all your problems and pains with her. You tell her all her worries. What should she do? She listens to you.
When she comes to ask you something or to tell you her problems, you react badly or don't want to listen to her. What does she do? She closes herself in.
You start to stop paying attention to her, she wants to tell her stories, she wants to tell her problems, and boom, a man appears who is more "evil" and starts listening to her. She feels listened to, seen and heard, she starts to get attached to him until she falls completely into the net of emotions.
You, being obsessed with work, with making as much money as possible, thinking that this solves all problems, don't realize it yet, but at some point you come to find out directly.
This is how I think Cătălin Bordea ended up in a situation where Spike infiltrated their marriage.
Cătălin Bordea or Livia Bordea: Who is to blame?
From my point of view, both of them have their share of blame. The fact that Cătălin Bordea preferred to immerse himself in work or other things just to avoid problems, and Livia Bordea for not communicating her needs and problems to Cătălin, not setting limits and allowing Spike to get close to her.
There is no one person to blame. Often, in such cases, there is guilt on both sides, but it depends on whether you listen to both sides of the story.
If you only listen to one side of the story, you might infer other things, and after listening to the other side of the story, you might infer entirely different things.
Things like this happen when healthy boundaries are not set and we often don't listen to our intuition.
Let's start digging deep into our souls to see "Why do we sweep the garbage under the rug and overlook it?".
It is often said that "You can't escape what you fear.".
Conclusion
This is my opinion about what happened and the psychological view I have on this issue.
I hope you resonate with some of these things and are open to understanding if you have been through similar situations. It's up to you to put your ego aside to change things that are related to your masculinity.
Many of us don't and continue to go with the pride in front of.
Start building a healthy ego or pride to evolve in life and get where you want to be, in terms of relationships, business, money, etc.
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